May 22, 2003 - 2:50 am
My name is Cortney and this is the first time I have posted anything on this site or spoke out about my childhood leukemia with anyone. I need some where to turn with this problem I am having. I am a 22 woman that has been in remission from ALL for about 18 years. Recently I got married to a wondereful man that has always been very supportive. My husband had told his parents of my childhood ordeal when we first started dating and that was that. But 4 months ago I gave birth to my first child, a healthy and beautiful son. My step mother-in-law threw me a baby shower that turned into a disaster. In front many of my in-laws (Nearly 25 of us), she announced that she thought that I was a fraud. She stated that although I've been in remission for 18 years, I shouldn't have any hair let alone be able to give birth. I understand that I have been extremely blessed with my remission but quite frankly, I was mortified and ashamed. I thought my new in-laws understood. I couldn't help but wonder how long she had been haboring these feelings and what lies she had been spreading to the family. I sat through the rest of the party quietly and went home. I haven't spoken to any of them since and will not show my face there although my husband takes our infant son over to see them occasionally. My problem is that I don't know what to do now. A part of me wishes to confont this meddling step mother-in-law and demand some kind of apology, TO MAKE HER UNDERSTAND!! That may be impossible. Another part of me doesn't want to allow my son to develop a relationship with them in fear of ridicule that might be facing him in the future. My husband is stuck in the middle, wishing I would atleast try to speak to his parents but would support any decision I made. The lady that did this is not his biological mother nor did she raise him. His widower father remarried this woman after my husband was out of childhood and I feel I owe her nothing. I feel like this was a calculated event and very childish. She could have pulled me aside and spoken to me in private. She wanted to mortify me in front of the family. Any adivice or thoughts would be appreciated...