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What do you do when they want to give up?
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Mar 30, 2003 - 2:52 pm
My Mom has colon cancer and now in her 3rd round of Chemo. This is kind of frustrating for her, she had the actual colon surgery 3 years ago. Then last year they discovered a tumor that had started in her pelvic area and spread down to consume her right thigh, recently they removed what they could from her thigh, it now has spread to her left hip and now we are mid way through the 3rd round of chemo and she simply wants to give up, she is tired of being poked and proded every day. To make matters worse she recently fell and now has a cast on her right leg. I don't know what to do anymore. I have 2 younger brothers who looked to me for answers. She seems to be vanishing before my eyes and I don't know what to do or say to her anymore, she does not want to go anywhere or see anyone. Any suggestions? She refuses to go to talk to a therapist or join a cancer group. |
Joined: Mar 2003
I don't blame your mom one bit for being tired of poking and prodding. It does tend to be annoying. If she looks at the "big picture," she'll see the long journey she has already been through. Her determination has gotten her to where she is now, and that is very brave. Her motivation to keep fighting will come from you and your brothers. My kids are what kept me fighting.
Sounds like her stubborness to not see anyone for support is the same stubborness that has kept her kicking this whole time. Maybe on her "up" days, you can take her to the movies or just "out" to try to feel more "normal." If she's not very mobile, especially since she now has a cast, maybe renting a good movie will give her a little escape from her current situation. There is a reason why this disease hasn't won, and I'm sure it goes back to the saying that "you are dealt only what you can handle." Apparently, she can handle quite a bit. If there is any support I can give, since I have gone through surgery, chemo, and radiation, I'm more than willing to e-mail her or just be here for her. I know she will tackle this, only because from what you said, she sounds like a true fighter.
Take care & good luck,
Stacy
Joined: Jan 2003