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kturc
Posts: 4
Joined: Nov 2002

I am 29 and was diagnosed with ovarian cancer in April 2001. I just finished chemo. A month ago my boyfriend asked me to move out. He said he didn't want to see me anymore. It was completely unexpected. I have not had the mental strength to go in for my CT scan, etc. He has been my primary support since my diagnosis - How could he just walk away? What am I supposed to do now?

nutt
Posts: 140
Joined: Sep 2001

Stay in touch with this network if you can.
Men (boys) unfortunatly do not grow up and mature fast enough and most do not have the maturity to understand anything but themselves. You are important and you will cope! Get you CT scan and dig deep for the courage I know you have. Keep a positive attitude and move on with YOUR life, don't dwell with his life or not being mature enough to deal with a mature issue.
God bless.
Joe

jigsaw
Posts: 10
Joined: Sep 2002

Hi,

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I'm 30 years old and can't imagine how it must have to felt to be diagnosed with cancer at such a young age. My father was diagnosed with prostate cancer this past May and that has been very devastating to our family to say the least. As for your boyfriend telling you to move out, well, that was just a good sign that he wasn't worth having. I'm sure you will meet someone else more worthy of having you in the future. Do you have a sister or mother who can go with you to your doctor's appointments and CT scans? Or perhaps a close friend. I'm sure there's someone else in your life who can help you thru this difficult time.

I hope everything goes well for you. Hope all your tests turn out o.k. Will be thinking and praying for you and if you ever need to talk, feel free to send me an e-mail anytime.

Take care,
Beth```````

crtsang
Posts: 105
Joined: Nov 2000

I agree on the immaturity thing, with the self-absorbed streak. Don't let this stop you from taking care of yourself, though--that means, go get the CT scan. Talk to your doctor and see if you can get a tranquilizer to take before the test, if necessary. (I have one cancer-surviving friend who takes Vicadin every time she goes in for hers.)
Please, look for other possible supporters. Friends may come through better than you hope.

Carol

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