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cybergray
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Joined: Oct 2002

Surgery on 10-4, chemo on Halloween day. Stage four. Debulked OK. I'm all alone here except for home health nurse 3Xweek. Not a weakling, but really scared. Scared I'll lose my self-control and fall apart. Info about chemo reactions? Mouth sores? Can I die during chemo? I don't care now, I'm so tired, but my grandson loves me.

crtsang
Posts: 105
Joined: Nov 2000

It's wonderful that you have a grandson and that he loves you.
What would happen if you lost your self-control and "fell apart"? I did, basically, once when I was going through less than you are. I was recovering from surgery and found I needed to teach my husband how to help me, and one day I did just lose it. I started screaming "I can't stand this! I can't stand this!" and swaying back and forth (to the extent my incision allowed me to). After a while, I regained control, and to tell the truth--I felt better, even though I bet the neighbors across the street could hear me! (My husband was a bit unnerved, though...)
It's a very scary time. Unless you're afraid you'll lose it during a chemo treatment and will rip the needle out or something, maybe this is one fear you can let go of.
Carol

crtsang
Posts: 105
Joined: Nov 2000

Oops...being all alone in a situation like this is soooo hard. I'm sure you've already thought through who might be able to visit with you for a day a week or more, so I won't suggest that you do.
In some places there are organizations that will send you someone to talk to, and that do so free of charge. You might ask at your hospital, or the local ACS...
Carol

cbilling
Posts: 1
Joined: Nov 2002

You will find inner strength you never realized you had. Believe it or not, you will become a stronger person. And who cares if you do have a "melt down"?? Go ahead. You will probably feel better. I am not a survivor, just a care giver. But my mom & I got real good at crying in front of anyone. It's no big deal. We found that reading books on cancer and nutrition helped us get a grip on everything that was going on.

clightfoot
Posts: 7
Joined: Feb 2003

Hi! I had surgery for stage IV ovarian cancer on June 27, 2001 at age 51. I had 6 rounds of chemo starting one week after surgery. I didn't get mouth sores but can't lie - chemo isn't fun. It seemed to get worse each time. By the time I had my last one I was in a state but guess what! I started feeling better about a month later. I just had my 21 month checkup and all is well. I graduate to every 4 months soon. I feel great! The only physical reminder I have is my scar - it's a beauty! I'd love to chat-

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