Cancer Survivors Network

I am sorry about your hubby you must be devestated. To your immediate needs though- your dad must be made to be felt part of the group. You want him to be in decisions and one of the last decisions he will make on this earth that he can have a big part in is his funeral. As long as he can talk let him help plan it. He knows what he wants. Ask him . To help uou cope it takes time. But I can suggest some good books to read. Hope again by Charles Swindoll, and Lord Change my Attitude by McDonald excellent books. Everyone deals with death diffently and for my my best way to deal with a personal death is to become invoved in some ones life again. For instanceThis past 2 months I have had 2 close firends who have and have cancer I am an active in their cancer recovery. I take meals in to one and I am going to the hospital with the other. I am her day and night nurse. I am there to make sure she does not have too much company etc. Are you eating right and have you built up your immune system? Those to things will make you feel better. If your dad was in the service etc help him write things down about his pasyt. On coping with your husbands death- did he wear a favorite cologne or after shave? If he did and you have some left or go get some and put it on a cotten ball and put it side your pillow case and when you sleep it will be soundly and you will ease into recovery better. I hope this helps. Alice

i know where you are. you do what you have to do...give him the power to do what he has to do. auto piolt takes over.