Cancer Survivors Network

amen amen and amen how true you are i always kept it in me until i meant you all i dwell on it coming back because my family has had cancer so much all you do think is the big C now i'm living again and wanting to help others thats dealing w/ bc i like you way was good you think if you ever will be the same again i big breast person so when i dont wear prothesis i look real funny but i hate putting that heavy thing on thats my part not cancer but wearing a prothesis it hurts my neck and shoulder but i got to except that part but i dont dwell, no more i dwell on helping others go through bc
cheryl

I'm sorry that you are struggling, but you shouldn't feel ashamed or alone. I think it is something that only those of us have been there can understand. I had felt like I was strong and didn't need any help or support. Then almost a year after my surgery, my world just kind of came crashing down around me. I couldn't understand what was going on. I felt guilty for feeling bad because, after all, I was OK and how ungrateful of me to feel depressed. I found that I did need support of others who had been there. When I found it, I was amazed at how much just being able to talk about it helped. I think it's also part of being a woman. We're conditioned to think we can handle anything and stand on our own. I also find myself having feelings of guilt because I was lucky enough to have mine caught so early. Because I had DCIS, I didn't have to have the chemo or radiation that so many others have to endure. Even though I had both breasts removed, I still felt guilty. I have come to realize that women, especially women who have survived breast cancer are remarkable. I am proud to consider myself a part of this remarkable community. If you need to talk, please feel free to email me at huxoll@oregontrail.net

Tara,
I have had similiar feelings about survivors guilt ....sooooo many with my type of cancer have had it come back and lost there battle. So in an effort, thinking what may have made life a little easier for all of us involved (patients) and or friends or family ive personally decided that the time im givin will be made making memories for these people to hang on to and hey i get to enjoy them also. Enjoy those around you and let them enjoy you. Im in no way saying hide your feelings its natural that we ALL have our good and bad days just try to dwell on the current moment ive found im a lot more relaxed that way. And remember for those bad days im just an email away and will be more than happy to listen....Hang in there
MrsBE

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