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Husband recently diagnosed w/colon cancer
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Apr 15, 2001 - 5:39 pm
Hi, I am reaching out for some guidance. My husband of six months was recently diagnosed with colon cancer (3/19/01) which has traveled to his liver (massive tumor). On 04/02 he had colon surgery to remove the tumor. When he heals they will start chemo on the liver. I am lost. He won't say much, he doesn't do anything anymore, he won't read cards that people have sent him wishing him well. I ask him if he is depressed or wants to talk and he says no, he is just sick. I am worried. I know a person needs time to come to terms w/their illness, but is he just attempting to block it out. I know a positive attitude is very important. How long do I let him be this way? I don't want to push, but I don't want him to give up and in my eyes, he has lost his drive in life. Could I please have some guidance in how to handle this situation w/out messing up. Thank you |
Joined: Apr 2001
Hi- I wish there was a magic pill for you and I wish I had a magical answer.
Have you told the Dr. he is depressed? It might not be a bad idea. Let me ask you- have you told your husband how you feel?
Would he go to a local support group with you? If he is not ready- I might suggest that you go by yourself. Support groups are wonderful!! I strongly recommend one- if not for both of you especially for you.
Author Bernie Seigel is also a souce of inspiration. He has great videos, tapes, books etc..
You are absolutely right- attitude and hope are major medicines.
I hope your husband will come around however in the meantime- help yourself!!
Take care and here is a hug-
Jill
Joined: Apr 2001
sorry about your husband recently being diagnosed with cancer of colon and liver..you are both in a very hard position. his reaction --no matter for how long--is very typical, and you should try to take guidance from him. forget all you've heard about good attitudes. it just makes people with bad ones feel guilty. i have been to lots of support groups through the years for people with both cancer of colon and non-cancerous ulcerative co