i am new to this group and this is my first message. I was just diagnosed and has scheduled a mastectomy this coming Monday. At this point, i don't know if chemo or radiation is needed. I am 43 years old with 2 children, 15 & 11 years old. I need to make a decision whether to have the implant or not TODAY. My hubby will give me great support no matter what i choose. For the last week, i have already decided NOT to have any reconstruction. But my surgeon keeps telling me woman my age should have one, and i will be happier with the implant. The meeting with the plastic surgeon goes well, and she gives me an impression that this is a breeze. I really can't decide. Can you help me ?
My biggest concern with the implant is that i may have to 'do something' 10 years later as my remaining breast starts sagging. Will it feel cold to the body ? i know it will when touching it. The thought of foreign object in my body also bothers me.
I also visited a prostheses store and see what is available. The idea of having all this 'tools' to make my everyday life normal also bothers me. I don't think i have problem facing my own body without any reconstruction, but i still want it to look normal to other people.
Please help me, share with me what you have experienced.
BTW, i need to decide now because i probably need radiation and the option of implant may not be avaiable anymore depending how my skin reacts to the radiation. If you have radiation and then have delayed reconstruction, i would like to hear from you too.
This is a great group, i spent the last week trying to read as more message as i can.