Cancer Survivors Network - Cancer or the Meds will kill my wife..or me one - Comments

Please call hospice

newbride — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 21:28:26 -0400

I feel your pain. My husband's doctors also said there was nothing they can do for him, and basically have been the same as your wife's doctors - once there is nothing more they can do medically they basically give up on you - these are the same doctors that throughout the surgery made you feel liek they were family. Anyway, same thing they just give my husband medication for pain. He doesn't bathe either and has become and "old man" at 42 quite fast! It's only a matter of time as well - depending on how quick the tumor grows. We called hospice and they have been great - a nurse comes in to take care of him and an aid comes in and helps to clean.

It definitely sounds like

luv3jay — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:54:31 -0400

It definitely sounds like you need to contact Hospice at this point. I can't believe your doctor didn't refer you to Hospice.

Do you have any help with you?

SonSon — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 23:29:00 -0400

Sounds like it is just you and your wife. Are you able to get any assistance with her at all?
You said that the doctors tell you "just let nature run its course". In other words - there is nothing more they can do for her. If this is the case then please consider contacting hospice for her. This will help you with many things...including the bathing that you mentioned. A really great thing they will do is help with managing her pain. Ask the hospital social worker about hospice.
Yes, your life matters, especially to her.
Keep posting - this is a great place for support.
Fatima

Cancer or the Meds will kill my wife..or me one

R_HUGHES — Thu, 22 Oct 2009 15:32:19 -0400

I am a 48 year old man who had three wifes already. This one was my last one, and now she has gotten breast cancer in her past and I was told she was over it. well needless to say she was not. since we have been married she has had a Malignant mastisized breast cancer that showed up in her brain as a tumor. Now she has had the tumor removed and it was not good.
Since her brain tumor was taken out she is now really taking some serious meds..she stays asleep most of the day and the rest of the time she just fades in and out of the life of boredem we have now. I love her so much and is has gotten so hard for me to help her do daily things. she will not take a shower nor a bath, so i must make her atleast wash her self off daily. she has aot of problems with the meds since she has ben on them for over three years now. when she runs out of her meds she goes crazy and her body starts hurting her all over and jerks s bad. i dont no what to do? I asked her doctors and all they say here is more meds and see ya next month...