Sad News

Jan Trinks
Jan Trinks Member Posts: 477
edited March 2014 in Head and Neck Cancer #1
Hi all:

I have very sad news to report. Charlie passed away Sat. night Aug. 21. He had a gi bleed; low blood pressure, electrolyte issues, low blood counts, severely dehydrated. He was admitted Thursday afternoon and was doing better; but on Sat. began having problems breathing and they had to keep pushing fluids to keep blood pressure up. Onc. had discussed this with us Thurs. afternoon and we decided to opt for DNR should that occur which happened Sat. night. We were all surprised as we thought he would probably pull out of this episode and we'd keep on fighting. I loved him so much and do not know how I'll get along without him but will find some way as that is would he would have me to do. He is going to be cremated according to his wishes and visitation is Wed. and his service on Thur. My best friend is staying with me right now from Chatt. So, you can imagine what a basketcase I am now. Just wanted to let y'all know and please keep us in your prayers as I know you will and to everyone out there "Don't ever give up!" Fight this monster with all your might and God's help! I love y'all!

Jan Trinks
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  • johnlax38
    johnlax38 Member Posts: 136
    I'm sorry for your loss Jan.
    I'm sorry for your loss Jan. I don't know what to say other than I am sorry. I hope you can stay strong and move forward.

    I lost my mother 3 years ago to HNC, I can understand how you feel. She was only 50.
  • kimmygarland
    kimmygarland Member Posts: 312
    johnlax38 said:

    I'm sorry for your loss Jan.
    I'm sorry for your loss Jan. I don't know what to say other than I am sorry. I hope you can stay strong and move forward.

    I lost my mother 3 years ago to HNC, I can understand how you feel. She was only 50.

    Thinking of you
    I am so sorry for your loss, and hope you can gain strength from your memories and time you had together.
  • MarineE5
    MarineE5 Member Posts: 1,030 Member
    Sorry to hear this news
    I am so sorry to hear this news. My Prayers have been sent out. May your Charlie Rest in Peace.
  • Lena Rose
    Lena Rose Member Posts: 73
    Jan-I am so very sorry for
    Jan-I am so very sorry for your loss. You were fighting every step of the way with Charlie, my heart goes out you. I will keep you in my prayers.
  • Kimba1505
    Kimba1505 Member Posts: 557

    Thinking of you
    I am so sorry for your loss, and hope you can gain strength from your memories and time you had together.

    So sorry.
    Jan,
    This is the first post you did not sign as "Jan and Charlie". Hearing your pain, wondering how you will go on without him, it is clear what a very sad and difficult time this is. I believe there will always be "Jan and Charlie". As always on these message boards, when we rejoice, we do it together, when we go through treatment or a procedure, we are together, Jan, as you face this loss, we are together.
    With deepest sympathy,
    Kim
  • staceya
    staceya Member Posts: 720
    Lena Rose said:

    Jan-I am so very sorry for
    Jan-I am so very sorry for your loss. You were fighting every step of the way with Charlie, my heart goes out you. I will keep you in my prayers.

    You cannot see us, but we
    You cannot see us, but we are right next to you, helping you the best we can.
    You are in my heart, my thoughts and my prayers,

    Sincerely,
    Stacey
  • KristynRuth86
    KristynRuth86 Member Posts: 140
    I'm sorry
    I am very new to this site and I know I haven't been with you throughout y'alls battle, but I am extremely sorry for your loss. I will pray for you that you continue to stay strong in memory of your husband.

    Love, Kristyn
  • stevenl
    stevenl Member Posts: 587

    I'm sorry
    I am very new to this site and I know I haven't been with you throughout y'alls battle, but I am extremely sorry for your loss. I will pray for you that you continue to stay strong in memory of your husband.

    Love, Kristyn

    No more pain
    No more suffering. He is in a better place. My heart goes out to you and also my prayers.
    Sincerest sympathies,

    Steve
  • RushFan
    RushFan Member Posts: 224
    staceya said:

    You cannot see us, but we
    You cannot see us, but we are right next to you, helping you the best we can.
    You are in my heart, my thoughts and my prayers,

    Sincerely,
    Stacey

    So sorry
    I'm new to the board and this stinks. I'm so sorry. With thouhgts and prayers, I hope for the best for you.

    Sincerely,
    Chuck.
  • Glenna M
    Glenna M Member Posts: 1,576
    stevenl said:

    No more pain
    No more suffering. He is in a better place. My heart goes out to you and also my prayers.
    Sincerest sympathies,

    Steve

    So sorry
    Jan, I was so shocked and saddened when I read your post. My heart, love and prayers go out to you.

    Please remember that we are all here for you anytime you need us. You have a large family of people here who care for you very deeply.

    My heartfelt sympathy,
    Glenna
  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    So Very Sorry As Well
    Jan, I'm so very sorry that Charlie has gone....cherish the memories until you are together again.

    Best & God Bless,
    John
  • Hal61
    Hal61 Member Posts: 655
    Thank you Jan and Charlie
    My deepest condolences Jan. Thank you very much for taking precious time to post your, and our, loss. We share your grief.

    Hal
  • lady4darknight
    lady4darknight Member Posts: 90 Member
    So Sorry
    Jan, My whole family sends their sorrows and extends their prayers to you at this sad time. We are so very sorry for your loss.

    Debbie and Family
  • timreichhart
    timreichhart Member Posts: 194

    So Sorry
    Jan, My whole family sends their sorrows and extends their prayers to you at this sad time. We are so very sorry for your loss.

    Debbie and Family

    Sorry to hear that
    Jan,
    I am sorry that your husband/your best friend/family member as past the way.
  • Carolinagal
    Carolinagal Member Posts: 91
    I'm so sorry for your loss.
    I'm so sorry for your loss. My Dad died in July . I'd like to say it gets easier but so far, it hasn't. I still come here everyday. It helps me feel connected to my Dad and like I'm still somehow part of this fight. I cheer for those who get good news and my heart breaks with and for those who don't. Praying for strength and comfort for you.
    Cindi
  • Dazey
    Dazey Member Posts: 91
    loss
    May old friends and new ones, help you through this difficult time. Many thoughts and prayers for you. Dazey
  • JUDYV5
    JUDYV5 Member Posts: 392
    So Sorry
    So Sorry for your loss.
  • Tanager75
    Tanager75 Member Posts: 89 Member
    So Sorry
    You are in my prayers.

    Peace,

    mark
  • delnative
    delnative Member Posts: 450
    Tanager75 said:

    So Sorry
    You are in my prayers.

    Peace,

    mark

    Oh gosh ...
    You and yours will be in my prayers.
    Cancer sucks.

    --Jim in Delaware
  • Greg53
    Greg53 Member Posts: 849
    delnative said:

    Oh gosh ...
    You and yours will be in my prayers.
    Cancer sucks.

    --Jim in Delaware

    Sorry Jan
    Jan,

    So sorry. We're all here for you when you need us.

    Greg