My mother in law has cancer

Hi,

It seems to me that everyone has a different way of dealing with cancer diagnosis. My mother, whom had breast cancer 5 years ago, is now fighting brain, bone and adrenal mets. We lost my father 11 years ago to carcinoid. I have noticed that my brother is dealing with our Mom's situation by planning beautiful trips that we cannot possibly take. I have also noticed that my sister thinks hand carrying Mom's latest scans will some how make the next appointment different. My sibs are both very wonderful and intelligent people. I believe that somewhere inside they know the reality but are coping the best way that they can. I come to this place to read others peoples ways of coping and to hear the honesty that I feel that I must have in order to cope. I don't say anything negative to my sibs and just listen to their plans and such. Sometimes it just takes time for people to handle things and sometimes there is nothing you can do. As individuals we all have our own reality. I would recommend that you don't push and that you do what you think is right for your mother-in-law. Often people follow anothers lead and things work out. I wish you the best. Take care of yourself and most of all be patient.