UPDATE: (OT) new granddaughter -almost 2mths old

Ritzy said:

I'm sorry Denise.  I sure

I'm sorry Denise.  I sure hope that she will change her mind.  I am sending you a huge hug!

Sue

I am thinking she'll change

I am thinking she'll change her mind at the end of the wire when in severe pain...in past she only wanted me to be next to her with the other two...

 

I am sure other family  members will ask why we are not there or not been? MAKES no sense..no fight, arument etc..

LIKE i said she can't hurt me ...numb to it...but I WOULD LOVE to hold the baby of couse....the boys may ask her to call me to come SEE their sister..

Thanks for reply

Denise

coco2008 said:

I have a daughter much like

I have a daughter much like yours.  Can suddenly turn on me for no apparent reason or she says it's because of something that happened when she was 13 and I didn't let her do something.  She's 38 now but will not let go of any perceived injustice.  She will be fine and then will all explode.

Hope the ice melts soon.  She will soon get tired of the kids asking where you are.

My prayers are with you.

Sandy

Sandy:
YOU said it perfectly.

Sandy:

YOU said it perfectly. MINE is stuck in time warp from 10 yrs ago or more (SHE IS 26 now) She doesnt' talk here and now issues.

I went out last night and got the baby tee shirt (baby sister) and t he boys each BIG BROTHER shirts...GOT the baby misc things (bottles, bibs etc in bag also) All in nice gift bags to take to the hospital IF I am ALLOWED to visit. They are all coming over for 9 yr old birthday. I have the "HOSPITAL gift bags" out next to Birthday stuff. (so my daughter can see I am excited and happy for the new baby and so the boys see as well) I will be able to tell from body language when I tell the boys htey can't open their bags until the hospital tomorrow......if she tenses up I"LL KNOW I can not go.

I hope she comes to her senses quickly since 24 hrs until maternity ward.

I LIKE "HOPE THE ICE MELTS" but this is an ICEBERG...lots of melting to do-

 Thanks so much for the reply...makes me feel better...

Denise

 

Baby is here (born yesterday)

Baby is here (born yesterday) NO call from my daughter-she dropped her boys off Thursday. I thought she was going to chagne her mind at the last minute but we were not and still have not been allowed to SEE the baby. NO photos, no calls nothing..she llived wth us for over 4 yr until 2 mths ago and now I am banned from  her baby. MY heart is ripped out right now but I have MANY great friends to get me through this.

thanks for letting me vent

 

Denise

mom62 said:

Strange

Denise,

My heart goes out to you on not being able to see your new grandchild.  It seems a little strange to me that she has no problem with you taking care of her other two and suddenly moves out right before the birth.  Since you haven't had a fight is it possible she may be hiding something from you?  I'm sorry I'm speculating I hope you don't mind.  Are other family members allowed to see the baby?  It seems very odd to me.  I hope she gets over what ever it is and lets you see the baby soon.  Many hugs.

 

Terry

 

cousins have all seen the

cousins have all seen the baby-

she is predictabley unpredicatble. OUR therapist said it is punishment-not that we don't take wonderful care of the boys. MORE  A control thing-but dug herself deep saying to us "I DO NOT NEED anything from youj"  just the opposite. She wanted her space and when we give it to her we are NO GOOD. could be a chemical imbalance but she will not admit issues-so it is what it is..sadly.

 

Thanks for reply

Denise

aisling8 said:

Just a theory

This is just an idea, but maybe she wants to "do" this baby on her own. It sounds like you provided a home and help and were very lovingly involved with her sons. Now she's moved out, as you say, no arguments, no strife. I'm wondering if she's trying to raise this baby on her own, not realizing, of course, that she can do that and still have you see the baby, hold the baby, love the baby. 

Family can be the greatest joy and the greatest heartbreak.

I'm glad she hasn't kept your grandsons from you. 

xoxo

Victoria

 

 

I keep my boundries-when she

I keep my boundries-when she is home and boys asked to do this and that etc..I would say mom is home go ask her. I am not one to hover and take over the kids. Even when home I cooked for boys-even when she was home-easier for me to do I GUESS.

9 yr old b birthday party tomorrow at bowling alley-she is leaving the baby home with cousin. I have not seen her since she dropped the boys-I have no idea who she will react. BUT I AM there for my grandson OLNLy..i'll be pleasant when I must have contact. I planned and booked the party (with her permission)

Denise