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  • taylor manny
    taylor manny Member Posts: 113

    Thanks

    Thank You all for your responses. They actually made me cry. My mom is seeing a counselor on Thursday. She is very negative about it and doesn't think it will help. I am pushing her to go with an open mind and at least use the experience to make a plan and be proactive with her situation. Tried getting her to walk with me last night. she lasted 15 very slow minutes. Even getting in our garden and picking tomatoes freaked her out. It's just heartbreaking to me. Going to suggest the Post Traumatic Stress disorder area with her too. I know that has to be part of it. but just the screwing with all her hormones did not help her at all either. 

    Hoping the counselor might

    Hoping the counselor might help your mom.  It is always worth a try. 

     

  • Kylez
    Kylez Member Posts: 3,761 Member

    Hoping the counselor might

    Hoping the counselor might help your mom.  It is always worth a try. 

     

    Your post rips at my heart. 

    Your post rips at my heart.  You're trying so hard to help your Mom and she just doesn't seem to want it.  I certainly pray that something and or someone will be able to reach her.

    I am just so very sorry,

    Kylez

  • tkaysmiles
    tkaysmiles Member Posts: 8
    my mom

    It's not that she doesn't want the help. It's she thinks that there is NO help. she thinks she is crazy and that nothing will help her. This was a worse week then others too. She did manage to go to couselor who suggested she excercise. No one seems to be able to help put her in the right direction or give her hope that things can change. I still have hope though!!

  • Lynn Smith
    Lynn Smith Member Posts: 1,264 Member

    my mom

    It's not that she doesn't want the help. It's she thinks that there is NO help. she thinks she is crazy and that nothing will help her. This was a worse week then others too. She did manage to go to couselor who suggested she excercise. No one seems to be able to help put her in the right direction or give her hope that things can change. I still have hope though!!

    I havent had any side effect but

    I haven't had any side effects but now that you've mentioned shaking I have started that.Just my hands.I had a bad bout with bronchitis that lingered for months and alot of problems with it.Couldn't go in stores etc for fears of running into others who might be sick and then I get worse.So I've tributed my hand shakes from that and haven't from the tamoxifin since I don't remember the shakes quite like the ones I have now.Could be a delayed side effects and with my body being so run down for months maybe I do have sides effects from the tamox.

    Oh and now after the bronchitis, I have allergies with lots of things.Eyes water, nose runs and I sneeze.  

    Lynn Smith 

  • Kylez
    Kylez Member Posts: 3,761 Member

    my mom

    It's not that she doesn't want the help. It's she thinks that there is NO help. she thinks she is crazy and that nothing will help her. This was a worse week then others too. She did manage to go to couselor who suggested she excercise. No one seems to be able to help put her in the right direction or give her hope that things can change. I still have hope though!!

    Never give up as there is

    Never give up as there is always hope!  I am praying for her and for you!

     

  • peterz54
    peterz54 Member Posts: 341
    Try these resources

    Recommend going here

    http://cancergrace.org/

    and posting your mom's issues and get an opinion from Dr West or one of his staff.   Dr West was responsive and helpful with my wife's cancer issues.   They now have a Breast Cancer section.

     

    Also,  diet can play a big role in survival and recurrence although there is still much to learn

    I have found Dr Greger's site to be useful.   Here is one such short video to give you a sense...

    http://nutritionfacts.org/video/flaxseeds-breast-cancer-survival-epidemiological-evidence/

    Use his search feature and search on breast cancer and there is much much more.

     

    Also, Carole Baggerly, a breast cancer suvivior, has started a non-profit a few years ago to bring to the pubic the lastest research on Vitamin D's impact on breast and other cancers.

    If your mother stay's indoors she is very likely deficient in vitamin D, and vitamin D deficiency is correlated wth increased odd of many illnesses including cancer and cancer recurrence.

    See the video section here

    http://www.grassrootshealth.net/index.php/videos

    there are several discussion with researchers on Vitamin D as it relates to breast cancer.   be sure to see the one with Dr JoEllen Welsh.

    Many of the researcher which Carole Baggerly interacts recommend to test and get above 30 ng/ml at a minimum.   If I recall correccly the average American is at about 22 ng/ml.

     

    getting outside into natural sunlight may affect her seratonin levels which can affect depression.   being outdoors and walking would be great for her.    But all easier said that done.

     

    good luck

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

  • DianeBC
    DianeBC Member Posts: 3,881 Member
    Kylez said:

    Never give up as there is

    Never give up as there is always hope!  I am praying for her and for you!

     

    Praying and hoping for your

    Praying and hoping for your Mother!

  • JJDS
    JJDS Member Posts: 258
    peterz54 said:

    Try these resources

    Recommend going here

    http://cancergrace.org/

    and posting your mom's issues and get an opinion from Dr West or one of his staff.   Dr West was responsive and helpful with my wife's cancer issues.   They now have a Breast Cancer section.

     

    Also,  diet can play a big role in survival and recurrence although there is still much to learn

    I have found Dr Greger's site to be useful.   Here is one such short video to give you a sense...

    http://nutritionfacts.org/video/flaxseeds-breast-cancer-survival-epidemiological-evidence/

    Use his search feature and search on breast cancer and there is much much more.

     

    Also, Carole Baggerly, a breast cancer suvivior, has started a non-profit a few years ago to bring to the pubic the lastest research on Vitamin D's impact on breast and other cancers.

    If your mother stay's indoors she is very likely deficient in vitamin D, and vitamin D deficiency is correlated wth increased odd of many illnesses including cancer and cancer recurrence.

    See the video section here

    http://www.grassrootshealth.net/index.php/videos

    there are several discussion with researchers on Vitamin D as it relates to breast cancer.   be sure to see the one with Dr JoEllen Welsh.

    Many of the researcher which Carole Baggerly interacts recommend to test and get above 30 ng/ml at a minimum.   If I recall correccly the average American is at about 22 ng/ml.

     

    getting outside into natural sunlight may affect her seratonin levels which can affect depression.   being outdoors and walking would be great for her.    But all easier said that done.

     

    good luck

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    I wish I had an answer for

    I wish I had an answer for what would help your Mom.

    I am praying that someone or something will help her!

    JJ

  • Kobias
    Kobias Member Posts: 115
    JJDS said:

    I wish I had an answer for

    I wish I had an answer for what would help your Mom.

    I am praying that someone or something will help her!

    JJ

    How is your Mom doing?  Any

    How is your Mom doing?  Any change? She's in all of our prayers.

    Kathy

  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
    Kobias said:

    How is your Mom doing?  Any

    How is your Mom doing?  Any change? She's in all of our prayers.

    Kathy

    She doesnt sound like a

    She doesnt sound like a typical person with PTSD. I think you re on the money with the fluctuations in the hormones causing the anxiety and depression. It sounds like she has a very bad reaction.

    I take lexapro because the tamoxifen makes me anxious and depressed. I realized I need it when it was changd to generic and it didnt work the same way. I was having anxiety attacks. i wonder if your mom got the name brand of these meds or generic? the generic does not work for me, and this is a common side effect

  • Lynne P
    Lynne P Member Posts: 165
    carkris said:

    She doesnt sound like a

    She doesnt sound like a typical person with PTSD. I think you re on the money with the fluctuations in the hormones causing the anxiety and depression. It sounds like she has a very bad reaction.

    I take lexapro because the tamoxifen makes me anxious and depressed. I realized I need it when it was changd to generic and it didnt work the same way. I was having anxiety attacks. i wonder if your mom got the name brand of these meds or generic? the generic does not work for me, and this is a common side effect

    I agree with carkris about

    I agree with carkris about that sometimes the generic of drugs don't work.  I have found this true for me with certain drugs.  Please do look into this. 

     

  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    carkris said:

    She doesnt sound like a

    She doesnt sound like a typical person with PTSD. I think you re on the money with the fluctuations in the hormones causing the anxiety and depression. It sounds like she has a very bad reaction.

    I take lexapro because the tamoxifen makes me anxious and depressed. I realized I need it when it was changd to generic and it didnt work the same way. I was having anxiety attacks. i wonder if your mom got the name brand of these meds or generic? the generic does not work for me, and this is a common side effect

    Hoping there is some

    Hoping there is some improvement with your Mother.  We are all praying for her!

  • Lynne P
    Lynne P Member Posts: 165
    Ritzy said:

    Hoping there is some

    Hoping there is some improvement with your Mother.  We are all praying for her!

    Checking again for a possible

    Checking again for a possible update.  I hope your Mother is doing better. 

  • Bearing burden
    Bearing burden Member Posts: 2
    You are a good daughter and I

    You are a good daughter and I know that you love your mother.  I am concerned about you too.  You may also need someone to talk to for your own sake.  You are being the care-giver and you are living under a huge burden that at times, I am sure, feels crushing.  I know, because beside my having breast cancer, my husband has also had cancer.  I have been on both sides of the situation and I know that you need someone to help you as you are helping her.  The estorgen supressing drugs are hard on us and each of us has different side effects.  I get depressed about how they have changed my life and so I understand your mom feeling hopeless.  It is a hard thing to understand and I hope you can find someone to talk it over with - it will make all the difference if someone can help bear your burden.  

    Mary

     

     

  • IE_Hope
    IE_Hope Member Posts: 43
    Sometimes a Daughter needs to step in

    Terri, sorry to hear what your mom is going through.   I recently had a mastectomy and will find out about Chemo tomorrow and I went through( still fighting it) depression.  I was fortunate my daughter is the one that brought it up to my Dr. and they put me on anti-depressant and I now feel so much better and doing things for myself.  At first I was upset with my daughter but now I am very thankful she did.

    Hang in there and have a talk with her Dr

     

    De