hurtfull words

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  • Alexis F
    Alexis F Member Posts: 3,598
    MrsBob said:

    have been at the end of thoughtless words also

    My father in law (at the time) once told me how horrible his brother's cancer was and how horrible his chemo was and then he went on to say "it wasnt the easy kind like your breast cancer and chemo, this was the harder kind." I was absolutely floored!!!! I just had to remember how ignorant he is about cancer and chemo. He knew nothing of it but talked like he did. I never let people see me when I was sick and i always had a smile. He had been with his brother and saw him sickly so thats probably why he thought mine was the "easy" kind. I forgave and went on...

    I hope you can forgive her

    I hope you can forgive her Kit Kat in time.  She is just plain ignorant and for that, she is to be pitied.  I am hoping that you will read all of these wonderful comments and start to feel better.

    Hugs, Lex

  • Kristin N
    Kristin N Member Posts: 1,968 Member
    Alexis F said:

    I hope you can forgive her

    I hope you can forgive her Kit Kat in time.  She is just plain ignorant and for that, she is to be pitied.  I am hoping that you will read all of these wonderful comments and start to feel better.

    Hugs, Lex

    Kit Kat, hoping your tears

    Kit Kat, hoping your tears have dried and you have moved past the rude comment of the nurse.  I hope you will post soon and update us on how you're doing.

  • burcu123
    burcu123 Member Posts: 66
    Very insensitive

    I agree with you those words were very rude. I think the technician had good intentions and wanted to make you feel better. I think if it happens again you should not hold back and stay quiet. You can say I know probably you are trying to comfort me but you have no idea what is stage 1 breats cancer means, in order to survive I had to accept , mutiliation , poisioning bu horrible medications. I lost a part of myself and my health. I may look very healthy to you but I am not the same person, physically and menatlly.

    Or you can choose your own words but please do not stay quiet.

  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    burcu123 said:

    Very insensitive

    I agree with you those words were very rude. I think the technician had good intentions and wanted to make you feel better. I think if it happens again you should not hold back and stay quiet. You can say I know probably you are trying to comfort me but you have no idea what is stage 1 breats cancer means, in order to survive I had to accept , mutiliation , poisioning bu horrible medications. I lost a part of myself and my health. I may look very healthy to you but I am not the same person, physically and menatlly.

    Or you can choose your own words but please do not stay quiet.

    You're on my mind and hoping

    You're on my mind and hoping that your days are brighter!  Also wish you'd check in with us.

    Sue :)

  • JJDS
    JJDS Member Posts: 258

    I never say I am a

    I never say I am a SURVIOR.....I just say I had cancer in 2008! This weekend is relay for life walk-survisor ceremony-never think OH I should go then...ODD I know...I think since I had it easy compared to many. (NOT that anything with cancer is easy -not sure if I am saying it correctly)

     

    Denise

    What a horrible person to say

    What a horrible person to say that!  I'd like to kick her in the pants! 

  • SIROD
    SIROD Member Posts: 2,194 Member
    Ritzy said:

    You're on my mind and hoping

    You're on my mind and hoping that your days are brighter!  Also wish you'd check in with us.

    Sue :)

    For Sue

    I remember kit kat from last year when she had a problem.  She didn't come back until this year.  If you know her email 

    address, you might want to inform her that many people want to know how things turn out.  Someone must have her email

    address, one of her closer friends.

    Best,

    Doris

  • Megan M
    Megan M Member Posts: 3,000
    SIROD said:

    For Sue

    I remember kit kat from last year when she had a problem.  She didn't come back until this year.  If you know her email 

    address, you might want to inform her that many people want to know how things turn out.  Someone must have her email

    address, one of her closer friends.

    Best,

    Doris

    Stupid people are all over! 

    Stupid people are all over!  You certainly ran into one of them.  Even though her comment hurt you bad, I hope you've moved past it and are enjoying your life.

    We're open all of the time here!

     

    Hugs, Megan

  • survivorbc09
    survivorbc09 Member Posts: 4,374 Member
    Megan M said:

    Stupid people are all over! 

    Stupid people are all over!  You certainly ran into one of them.  Even though her comment hurt you bad, I hope you've moved past it and are enjoying your life.

    We're open all of the time here!

     

    Hugs, Megan

    I think we should still go

    I think we should still go with Ritzy's idea and get on the pink bus and pay her a visit. 

    Jan

  • DebbyM
    DebbyM Member Posts: 3,289 Member

    I think we should still go

    I think we should still go with Ritzy's idea and get on the pink bus and pay her a visit. 

    Jan

    I agree Jan!  Good thoughts

    I agree Jan!  Good thoughts and big hugs for you kit kat!

  • kit kat
    kit kat Member Posts: 56
    words

    Thank you everyone for your KIND words. that was the worst comment yet, because it came from a medical personal. Everyone else I could say ,it just should happen to them. They'll find out. But my father died from tongen c mom from stomach I would never ever say anything to them but possitive words , and I did years ago and my mother was 53 when she died and I was 21 at the time. I knew better. Life was precious to me even at that age. Some people never learn. I still suffer from chemo effects. Marrriage is strugging etc you all know. Thank you again.talk to you soon Kitty

  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    kit kat said:

    words

    Thank you everyone for your KIND words. that was the worst comment yet, because it came from a medical personal. Everyone else I could say ,it just should happen to them. They'll find out. But my father died from tongen c mom from stomach I would never ever say anything to them but possitive words , and I did years ago and my mother was 53 when she died and I was 21 at the time. I knew better. Life was precious to me even at that age. Some people never learn. I still suffer from chemo effects. Marrriage is strugging etc you all know. Thank you again.talk to you soon Kitty

    You are back! :)

    You're back Kit Kat!  Great to see you posting, as we have all been concerned about you, and, hoped you'd read all of the posts from the pinkies that are supporting you. 

    I am sorry about the chemo effects you're still having and about your marriage.  I'll be praying for you.

    Please continue to keep in touch! 

    Sue :)

  • Ritzy
    Ritzy Member Posts: 4,381 Member
    SIROD said:

    For Sue

    I remember kit kat from last year when she had a problem.  She didn't come back until this year.  If you know her email 

    address, you might want to inform her that many people want to know how things turn out.  Someone must have her email

    address, one of her closer friends.

    Best,

    Doris

    She just posted Doris! 

    She just posted Doris!   :)

  • SIROD
    SIROD Member Posts: 2,194 Member
    Ritzy said:

    She just posted Doris! 

    She just posted Doris!   :)

    For Ritzy

    Hi,

    I noticed!  I was delighted to read her post too!  

    Best to you,

    Doris

  • Alexis F
    Alexis F Member Posts: 3,598
    Ritzy said:

    You are back! :)

    You're back Kit Kat!  Great to see you posting, as we have all been concerned about you, and, hoped you'd read all of the posts from the pinkies that are supporting you. 

    I am sorry about the chemo effects you're still having and about your marriage.  I'll be praying for you.

    Please continue to keep in touch! 

    Sue :)

    Sending you a big hug! 

    Sending you a big hug!  Thanks for the update even though I wish it were good news! 

    Hugs, Lex

  • LoveBabyJesus
    LoveBabyJesus Member Posts: 1,679 Member
    Ignorance

    There are so many ignorant things people say about cancer it is best to simply walk away (or educate them, if you have the energy to spare).

    I am sorry you had to hear another stupid comment from someone who has no clue. I only hope she is checking herself to make sure she catches it early.  Who knows! She might be one of the people to think: no family history, no cancer - both comments are pretty much parallel to each other.

    Please remember that you are in a better position than she is because (1) you are educated and (2) you've been there done that - I know this part might not be exciting, but it gives you an edge when educating others.

    If you are angry at her, you can do one of two things: (1) you can report her or (2) you can teach her a lesson by telling her she is ignorant, and explaining why. Both would take energy out of you. Remember to also forgive her.

    Feel better soon and know that you're cared for.

  • warrrior3
    warrrior3 Member Posts: 92
    A comment like that brings

    A comment like that brings back all the "guilt" I have felt because my younger sister has stage IV BC that has recently spread to her lungs and liver. It had advanced from stage II to stage IV when it progressed to her bones in 2008, 2 years after Dx.

     

  • Pink Rose
    Pink Rose Member Posts: 493
    kit kat said:

    words

    Thank you everyone for your KIND words. that was the worst comment yet, because it came from a medical personal. Everyone else I could say ,it just should happen to them. They'll find out. But my father died from tongen c mom from stomach I would never ever say anything to them but possitive words , and I did years ago and my mother was 53 when she died and I was 21 at the time. I knew better. Life was precious to me even at that age. Some people never learn. I still suffer from chemo effects. Marrriage is strugging etc you all know. Thank you again.talk to you soon Kitty

    I am sorry about the side

    I am sorry about the side effects your having and your marriage troubles.  Post often if you need to if it helps you to get it out in a safe place.  Thanks for the update too.

    Hugs, Rose

    p.s. Glad you came back sooner rather than a year later like someone said it would be Foot in Mouth  .  We were all praying for you and wanted to know you were ok.  Thanks again!

  • survivorbc09
    survivorbc09 Member Posts: 4,374 Member
    Alexis F said:

    Sending you a big hug! 

    Sending you a big hug!  Thanks for the update even though I wish it were good news! 

    Hugs, Lex

    Thanks for the update!  I

    Thanks for the update!  I will be praying for you and hoping that your marriage will get better, if that is what you want.  Keep us updated when you can.

    Hugs, Jan

  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member
    Pink Rose said:

    I am sorry about the side

    I am sorry about the side effects your having and your marriage troubles.  Post often if you need to if it helps you to get it out in a safe place.  Thanks for the update too.

    Hugs, Rose

    p.s. Glad you came back sooner rather than a year later like someone said it would be Foot in Mouth  .  We were all praying for you and wanted to know you were ok.  Thanks again!

    Keep updating us Kitty as we

    Keep updating us Kitty as we do worry about you.  Praying for you!

    Leeza

  • Kristin N
    Kristin N Member Posts: 1,968 Member
    jnl said:

    Keep updating us Kitty as we

    Keep updating us Kitty as we do worry about you.  Praying for you!

    Leeza

    I'm so glad to see some news

    I'm so glad to see some news from you Kit Kat.  I will be praying for you as I always do.