Hubby with tonsil cancer with lymph node involvement

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  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member

    Thank you for your post.

    My husband was recently diagnosed as well. His diagnosis and your feelings are nearly a mirror of ours. I have been a wreck, he has been the rock. He had his tonsils taken out two weeks ago, and two teeth pulled 4 days ago. He was fitted for his mask on Thursday and will be starting chemo and rad in a week or so.

    I've been such a mess and I am so thankful this support is here. I'm taking notes and advice from the responses you've gotten.

    Thank you for your writing. I'm having a difficult time writing exactly how I feel, but you pretty much said it all for me.  I will keep in touch.  God Bless.  

     

    ruben and jude, u've come 2 a

    ruben and jude, u've come 2 a great place to voice your questions and concerns.  u will find people are extremely helpful here and have lots of info to share.  it is understandable that you''re a mess, who wouldn't be?  come here often as we will be your new friends and guide you when we can.  the road will be rough but u will get thru it.  the side effects are awful but they too pass.  hang in there and come here often.  u r n my thots and prayers.

    God bless,

    debbiejeanne   susel

  • Crazymom
    Crazymom Member Posts: 339 Member
    tonsil cancer

    Welcome.  the waiting is hard, but you will start before you know it.  I had left tonsil and 2 left nodes...T2 N2.  The chemo is hard, the radiation is terribly hard and then it gets better.  I have been NED for 13 months and am doing great.  I went back to work 6 weeks after my last radiation.    It will get better!

     

  • Jeanne1278
    Jeanne1278 Member Posts: 4
    Husband with tonsilar cancer with Lymph node involved

    My best friend and husband was just diagnosed with tonsilar cancer and wefound out yesterday it has spread to right lymph node. We were so sure it was just something stuck in his throat. This has been such a blow. Seems oUr whole world is about to change. I am glad I found this blog as I too went online and scared myself to death and naturally didn't share this info with him. We have been given a choice of dissection ofneck to remove tonsils and lymph node plus radiation, or radiation and chemo. I read a lot about the stronger radiation destroying taste buds and salivery glands, so we are leaning toward surgery. Any support would be greatly appreciated from those of you who are going thru this now or who have come out the other end.  

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member

    Husband with tonsilar cancer with Lymph node involved

    My best friend and husband was just diagnosed with tonsilar cancer and wefound out yesterday it has spread to right lymph node. We were so sure it was just something stuck in his throat. This has been such a blow. Seems oUr whole world is about to change. I am glad I found this blog as I too went online and scared myself to death and naturally didn't share this info with him. We have been given a choice of dissection ofneck to remove tonsils and lymph node plus radiation, or radiation and chemo. I read a lot about the stronger radiation destroying taste buds and salivery glands, so we are leaning toward surgery. Any support would be greatly appreciated from those of you who are going thru this now or who have come out the other end.  

    Welcome Jeanne...

    I had very similar, both symptoms and Dx..., but no dissesction.

    I wouldn't base your decision onloss of taste and saliva..., it most cases that is inly temporary... It does take awhile to get back, but killing the cancer is the main thing.

    As for a stronger radiation...., sorry to bust your bubble..., radiation is radiation. It's going to hit taste and saliva...

    Myself personally and becasue that is what I went through, I'd opt for the tonsils comig out and chemo and rads..., dissection as a last choice if the other two didn't dissolve away the tumor.

    Either way, go for what they suggest of having the best chances of a one time cure...

    Best,

    John

  • Jeanne1278
    Jeanne1278 Member Posts: 4
    Skiffin16 said:

    Welcome Jeanne...

    I had very similar, both symptoms and Dx..., but no dissesction.

    I wouldn't base your decision onloss of taste and saliva..., it most cases that is inly temporary... It does take awhile to get back, but killing the cancer is the main thing.

    As for a stronger radiation...., sorry to bust your bubble..., radiation is radiation. It's going to hit taste and saliva...

    Myself personally and becasue that is what I went through, I'd opt for the tonsils comig out and chemo and rads..., dissection as a last choice if the other two didn't dissolve away the tumor.

    Either way, go for what they suggest of having the best chances of a one time cure...

    Best,

    John

    I may be confused

    John, thanks for your comments, I do think I may be confused as to what "neck dissection" means. Dr said lymph node surgery would involve opening from bottom of ear downward toward collar bone. I took that to mean neck dissection. If I am wrong could you explain what neck dissection is?

    How long were your taste buds and saliva glands affected? Did you have a feeding tube and for how long. I am so scared forhim right now. 

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member

    I may be confused

    John, thanks for your comments, I do think I may be confused as to what "neck dissection" means. Dr said lymph node surgery would involve opening from bottom of ear downward toward collar bone. I took that to mean neck dissection. If I am wrong could you explain what neck dissection is?

    How long were your taste buds and saliva glands affected? Did you have a feeding tube and for how long. I am so scared forhim right now. 

    Neck Dissection...

    Man, I need to quit drinking so much before replying..., LOL..., just kidding... I get in a hurry and forget to check my spelling apparently...No, I think you have the dissection about right...

    By completely affected, two years..., as for severly affected, a few months.... By six months post rads, I could definitely eat, drink and taste enough to survive if it never got any better..

    It probably took a good year for a large majority to be somewhat recovered...some things lagged for nearly two years though.

    No feeding tube....

    Don't be scared, he's going to make it through... Deal with the complications as they present themselves..., and be pro-active on the ones you  can.

    Best ~ John

  • Jeanne1278
    Jeanne1278 Member Posts: 4
    Skiffin16 said:

    Neck Dissection...

    Man, I need to quit drinking so much before replying..., LOL..., just kidding... I get in a hurry and forget to check my spelling apparently...No, I think you have the dissection about right...

    By completely affected, two years..., as for severly affected, a few months.... By six months post rads, I could definitely eat, drink and taste enough to survive if it never got any better..

    It probably took a good year for a large majority to be somewhat recovered...some things lagged for nearly two years though.

    No feeding tube....

    Don't be scared, he's going to make it through... Deal with the complications as they present themselves..., and be pro-active on the ones you  can.

    Best ~ John

    More results

    Found out today sample of cells from opposite side of neck shows suspicious looking cells that look precancerous so he will need other side of neck operated on at same time to remove nodes. I would love to follow your advise and not be scared. Sorry not working right now. Will work on that. I do know he will make it thru.    jeanne

    If I wasn't celebrating 19 yrs sobriety, I would join you for that drink

  • Tony.K7ISS
    Tony.K7ISS Member Posts: 12
    Just found out, this week from biopsy.

    I go in next Tuesday for a full body Scan and more test, As of right now they are saying squamacel cell carsanoma/(SPELLING) on right tonsil.  Reading some on internet but keeping in mind most is old or blown out of proportion. This forum so Far has been awesome and I have only read a few threads. 

    It's scary and i'm keeping positive, just way too many questions...

     

    Will reply and get on here more.

    Tony in Oklahoma.... advice welcome..    k7iss@k7iss.info just mention from CSN cancer survivor network.

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member

    Just found out, this week from biopsy.

    I go in next Tuesday for a full body Scan and more test, As of right now they are saying squamacel cell carsanoma/(SPELLING) on right tonsil.  Reading some on internet but keeping in mind most is old or blown out of proportion. This forum so Far has been awesome and I have only read a few threads. 

    It's scary and i'm keeping positive, just way too many questions...

     

    Will reply and get on here more.

    Tony in Oklahoma.... advice welcome..    k7iss@k7iss.info just mention from CSN cancer survivor network.

    Welcome Tony..

    It;s just easier to use SCC for the cancer type..., we all know what it is...

    Sorry for the shock that I'm sure you're going through..., I was in your place 4 1/2 years ago... STGIII SCC Right Tonsil, a lymphnode HPV+.. I went through the treatment chemo and rads after tonsils coming out, and clean and clear since.

    It's rough, but doable...., survivability is very high.

    Best ~ John

     

  • robswife87
    robswife87 Member Posts: 209
    Skiffin16 said:

    Welcome Tony..

    It;s just easier to use SCC for the cancer type..., we all know what it is...

    Sorry for the shock that I'm sure you're going through..., I was in your place 4 1/2 years ago... STGIII SCC Right Tonsil, a lymphnode HPV+.. I went through the treatment chemo and rads after tonsils coming out, and clean and clear since.

    It's rough, but doable...., survivability is very high.

    Best ~ John

     

    Welcome to the newcomers

    Sorry you had to come join us. 

    We just finished treatment last Friday. Rob is going through the worst now that it is over. 

    He had no surgery. They said last resort if chemo and rads did not work. Do as others have said, come here only the rest of the internet will scare you to death.

    I did nothing but cry for 2 weeks after the diagnosis. Rob got me out of the funk by saying he was here today, will be here tomorrow and has no plans on leaving me anytime soon. 

    I got on the horse with him at that moment and we plan to be survivors of this BS disease. He wants to apologize constantly for putting me though this and I have to tell him he didn't ask for this or will this to happen. It is just another bump in the road that will soon be gone and we will be on a smooth path again.

    You will soon find yourself to busy to worry about anything. This time will go fast and soon you will be cancer free.

    Sandy

  • Tony.K7ISS
    Tony.K7ISS Member Posts: 12
    Skiffin16 said:

    Welcome Tony..

    It;s just easier to use SCC for the cancer type..., we all know what it is...

    Sorry for the shock that I'm sure you're going through..., I was in your place 4 1/2 years ago... STGIII SCC Right Tonsil, a lymphnode HPV+.. I went through the treatment chemo and rads after tonsils coming out, and clean and clear since.

    It's rough, but doable...., survivability is very high.

    Best ~ John

     

    Thanks,

    Really means a lot....

  • Tony.K7ISS
    Tony.K7ISS Member Posts: 12

    Welcome to the newcomers

    Sorry you had to come join us. 

    We just finished treatment last Friday. Rob is going through the worst now that it is over. 

    He had no surgery. They said last resort if chemo and rads did not work. Do as others have said, come here only the rest of the internet will scare you to death.

    I did nothing but cry for 2 weeks after the diagnosis. Rob got me out of the funk by saying he was here today, will be here tomorrow and has no plans on leaving me anytime soon. 

    I got on the horse with him at that moment and we plan to be survivors of this BS disease. He wants to apologize constantly for putting me though this and I have to tell him he didn't ask for this or will this to happen. It is just another bump in the road that will soon be gone and we will be on a smooth path again.

    You will soon find yourself to busy to worry about anything. This time will go fast and soon you will be cancer free.

    Sandy

    Thanks...

    Only research is more the medical, what each part plays in the body, always new lymph nodes helped clean body but no clue past that.  I'm just playing a waiting game until tues to see first oncologist and full body scan.. that's the scary thing of waiting.

    I have a huge family and friends for support.

    Tony

  • Jeanne1278
    Jeanne1278 Member Posts: 4

    Just found out, this week from biopsy.

    I go in next Tuesday for a full body Scan and more test, As of right now they are saying squamacel cell carsanoma/(SPELLING) on right tonsil.  Reading some on internet but keeping in mind most is old or blown out of proportion. This forum so Far has been awesome and I have only read a few threads. 

    It's scary and i'm keeping positive, just way too many questions...

     

    Will reply and get on here more.

    Tony in Oklahoma.... advice welcome..    k7iss@k7iss.info just mention from CSN cancer survivor network.

    Same diagnosis as hubby

    tony, sounds like you and my husband have same diagnosis. his surgeon explained what he would do if we choose that route, and now we have appt. with radiologist Thurs to hear his treatment options. because of R tonsil and Lymph node involvement as well as "iffy" looking cells from left side of neck we are leaning toward surgery to get as much as we can out and then low dose radiation.It has helped me a lot to hear what the survivors on this blog have had to say. we know this will not be easy but is doable. good luck with your treatment and I hope to keep in touch.  would be interested in knowing how old you are. my husband is 66.   Jeanne

  • LaughingGirl
    LaughingGirl Member Posts: 6

    Just found out, this week from biopsy.

    I go in next Tuesday for a full body Scan and more test, As of right now they are saying squamacel cell carsanoma/(SPELLING) on right tonsil.  Reading some on internet but keeping in mind most is old or blown out of proportion. This forum so Far has been awesome and I have only read a few threads. 

    It's scary and i'm keeping positive, just way too many questions...

     

    Will reply and get on here more.

    Tony in Oklahoma.... advice welcome..    k7iss@k7iss.info just mention from CSN cancer survivor network.

    I am in Oklahoma also

    Hi Tony -

    I am in Oklahoma also.  I am now 7 weeks out of treatment and feeling quite good.  I have sent you an email to the address above with more information.  (I don't post here very often, as I have a bit of personal guilt since my treatment seemed so much easier than others have had it - 35 rads over 7 weeks plus 3 Cisplatin every three weeks - but read posts daily.  They have really helped me  along this journey)

    Becly

  • patmac11
    patmac11 Member Posts: 4
    We've just joined this lousy club too.... just starting out

    I hate to say it but we've just joined this club too. We are at the beginning and I am on the internet just trying to find out alittle and get famliar with terms and stage some questions.  Memorial Day weekend we noticed the enlarged lymphnode.  Went to primary for check up on diabetes/heart stent issues he confirmed "ya that looks too big".  Sent hubby for ultra sound, then CAT.  Next see the ENT.  He set us up for needle biopsy. Diagonsis:  scc  hpv positive.  Now we look for primary.  Lymphnode tumor about 2.5 cm.

    Now we set up for triple endo to find primary but they abort due to a funky stress test and of course has been on blood thinners for a year.  Now we finally get a PET and as the ENT suspected, found it in right tonsil. 

    Now, this week coming up have appt with both the radiation oncologist and the medical oncologist.  Have not idea what to expect, they are talking radiation with some chemo.

    He is only 52 and was in good health, we thought, until last year when on his birthday he got a heart stent in the LAD, and I mean ON HIS BIRTHDAY!  He had a widow maker blockage and then was discoverd to be Type II diabetic.  Just when we have all this under control and are rolling along..... here we are!

    Staying positive, ENT said we would certainly be planning our vacation five years from now...... Any suggestions?  We have acess to some of the best, Dana Farber, Mass General...

    Pat

     

  • phrannie51
    phrannie51 Member Posts: 4,716
    patmac11 said:

    We've just joined this lousy club too.... just starting out

    I hate to say it but we've just joined this club too. We are at the beginning and I am on the internet just trying to find out alittle and get famliar with terms and stage some questions.  Memorial Day weekend we noticed the enlarged lymphnode.  Went to primary for check up on diabetes/heart stent issues he confirmed "ya that looks too big".  Sent hubby for ultra sound, then CAT.  Next see the ENT.  He set us up for needle biopsy. Diagonsis:  scc  hpv positive.  Now we look for primary.  Lymphnode tumor about 2.5 cm.

    Now we set up for triple endo to find primary but they abort due to a funky stress test and of course has been on blood thinners for a year.  Now we finally get a PET and as the ENT suspected, found it in right tonsil. 

    Now, this week coming up have appt with both the radiation oncologist and the medical oncologist.  Have not idea what to expect, they are talking radiation with some chemo.

    He is only 52 and was in good health, we thought, until last year when on his birthday he got a heart stent in the LAD, and I mean ON HIS BIRTHDAY!  He had a widow maker blockage and then was discoverd to be Type II diabetic.  Just when we have all this under control and are rolling along..... here we are!

    Staying positive, ENT said we would certainly be planning our vacation five years from now...... Any suggestions?  We have acess to some of the best, Dana Farber, Mass General...

    Pat

     

    Hi Pat...

    well, you're right....this isn't a club anybody wants to join...but since it appears you have no choice, I can tell you that you've managed to find the best forum on the internet to get questions answered....to find people who have been through or are going through treatment, and can help your hubby get through this the best he can.

    You might want to start a new thread here....so you get all the answers you seek....this is an older thread, and sometimes folks miss or skip them because they are older.

    Your hubby is going to get through this.....it just takes some time to do so. 

    p

  • CivilMatt
    CivilMatt Member Posts: 4,722 Member

    Hi Pat...

    well, you're right....this isn't a club anybody wants to join...but since it appears you have no choice, I can tell you that you've managed to find the best forum on the internet to get questions answered....to find people who have been through or are going through treatment, and can help your hubby get through this the best he can.

    You might want to start a new thread here....so you get all the answers you seek....this is an older thread, and sometimes folks miss or skip them because they are older.

    Your hubby is going to get through this.....it just takes some time to do so. 

    p

    Pat,
    Welcome to the H&N

    Pat,

    Welcome to the H&N forum, yes it does have lousy requirements to join.

    As Phrannie mentioned, "start a new thread" and get the word out, these older threads just do not get the attention you need.

    We have all been in your situation and there is a lot to learn quickly, but  it is easy (just not fun).  In the mean time check out the Superthread at top, it is full of information.

    Matt

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    patmac11 said:

    We've just joined this lousy club too.... just starting out

    I hate to say it but we've just joined this club too. We are at the beginning and I am on the internet just trying to find out alittle and get famliar with terms and stage some questions.  Memorial Day weekend we noticed the enlarged lymphnode.  Went to primary for check up on diabetes/heart stent issues he confirmed "ya that looks too big".  Sent hubby for ultra sound, then CAT.  Next see the ENT.  He set us up for needle biopsy. Diagonsis:  scc  hpv positive.  Now we look for primary.  Lymphnode tumor about 2.5 cm.

    Now we set up for triple endo to find primary but they abort due to a funky stress test and of course has been on blood thinners for a year.  Now we finally get a PET and as the ENT suspected, found it in right tonsil. 

    Now, this week coming up have appt with both the radiation oncologist and the medical oncologist.  Have not idea what to expect, they are talking radiation with some chemo.

    He is only 52 and was in good health, we thought, until last year when on his birthday he got a heart stent in the LAD, and I mean ON HIS BIRTHDAY!  He had a widow maker blockage and then was discoverd to be Type II diabetic.  Just when we have all this under control and are rolling along..... here we are!

    Staying positive, ENT said we would certainly be planning our vacation five years from now...... Any suggestions?  We have acess to some of the best, Dana Farber, Mass General...

    Pat

     

    Welcome Pat...

    I went through STGIII Tonsil Cancer (right side), with a lymphnode as a secondary...HPV+.

     

    Sixteen weeks of four types of chemo, 35 days of radiation, after having the tonsils taken out...

     

    As mentioned, it's a rough club to belong to, but very doable, and very survivorable. Many here have went through what you are about, and came out the other end with minimal long term side effects..., other than maybe a bit abi-normal.

     

    I went through mine, January - June 2009..., all scans have been good since.

     

    Check out the SuperThread, and keep the Googling to a minimum, or at least realize that there is a ton of old info out there, most not taking consideration to HPV derived cancer.

     

    Best,

    John

  • genie123
    genie123 Member Posts: 6
    Tonsil Ca

    Hi,

    I'm glad I found this site and you. I am a mother of 40 year old son diagnosed with Papillary SCC of the right tonsil. T4N2M0.

    I would like to find out what chemo treatment you had and your experiencee with radiation. My son is undergoing chemo TPF protocol 

    but the dose is not the same as in the drug book. He is having shortness of breath and the doc seem to just shrug her shoulder. He is 

    scared to death with radiation and now the doc said he'sgonna have surgery instead. The inconsistensies are so upsetting. Hes having 6 cycles of chemo 

    and now on his 4th. I will be so happy to learn about your husband's experiences and yours too because it is so stressful to have your loved on suffering like this.

    thanks,

    genie123

  • robswife87
    robswife87 Member Posts: 209
    genie123 said:

    Tonsil Ca

    Hi,

    I'm glad I found this site and you. I am a mother of 40 year old son diagnosed with Papillary SCC of the right tonsil. T4N2M0.

    I would like to find out what chemo treatment you had and your experiencee with radiation. My son is undergoing chemo TPF protocol 

    but the dose is not the same as in the drug book. He is having shortness of breath and the doc seem to just shrug her shoulder. He is 

    scared to death with radiation and now the doc said he'sgonna have surgery instead. The inconsistensies are so upsetting. Hes having 6 cycles of chemo 

    and now on his 4th. I will be so happy to learn about your husband's experiences and yours too because it is so stressful to have your loved on suffering like this.

    thanks,

    genie123

    Doing well

    here. Rob has Carbo and Taxol concurrent with 35 rads. He got dehydrated and needed a peg tube for feeding. 

    It was a really rough ride with side effects and he didn't leave the house for over a month. But here we are almost 4 months out of all treatment and doing great.

    He went back to work after labor day and has gotten stronger everyday. He is still tapering off one pain med. Slowly as he is reallys ensitive.

    You will make it through this. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Be prepared to see him the sickest he has ever been. maybe like the worst flu ever for several months.

    Just make sure he keeps swallowing. Water, Water, Water. Try to get  3000 calories in him, hard as it will be, and he will fight, just fight back he will thank you

    Prayers are with all of you.

    Sandy