My mom just passed away from Stage IV

Hi all, 

I just wanted to say I hate cancer and I hate what it does to our love ones... with that said, my mother of 66 years just passed away on May 26,2013 sunday orning at 8:49 am. She was diagnosed with stage IV October 15,2012 , I moved her and my father out west to get the much needed medical care. She barely made on November 13,2012 she arrived and was rushed to the hospital with in the next two days of arriving, where that immediately started chemo- she did folfox with avastin, she did great for six months she was doing well. Then the end of march  on her 8th treatment, something changed and she got really sick, so we stopped the chemo. She was full of cancer all through her stomach and lympnodes, she had blood clots  and her lung and stomach filled up with fluid. They had to drain both. she passed within two days of having the ascites.I miss her so much..:( . I really hope they find a cure soon  I never want to ee anyone go through that much pain ever again, relative or not .. weith all my love to all out there.. God Bless.

 

Tina

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  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
     
    I am so very sorry Tina,

     

    I am so very sorry Tina, you have my deepest condolences.  I know that you took excellent care of your Mom, and I'm sure that she passed knowing that you loved her very much.

    With sympathy,

    Cynthia

  • karguy
    karguy Member Posts: 1,020 Member
    I'm very sorry

    I'm very sorry you have to go through all the pain.I agree with you,I HATE CANCER!I would not wish it on my worst enemy.If you need to vent,we are here.Good luck.

  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    Oh Tina

    You have my sincerest sympathy, I a so sorry that through this horrible disease called cancer that you lost your mother

    I know she knew of your love for her and that she didn't want to leave you alone, but she didn't have a choice.

    My arms are wrapped around you dear.

    Winter Marie

  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    DP

    Double post

  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    Sorry

    I'm sorry for your loss.  It's a terrible disease that makes all sad.  You are welcome on this board still.  May you find comfort in knowing the love that you both shared.

    Kim

  • fatbob2010
    fatbob2010 Member Posts: 467 Member
    Peace

    Tina,

    I am very sorry for your loss.  You made a heroic effort to bring your Mom out West to get the treatment that may have made the difference.  

    Please accept my hope for a future of fond memories and release from the sorrow you must now feel.

    ((HUGS))

    Art

  • steveandnat
    steveandnat Member Posts: 886
    We are all with you

    I'm so sorry to hear about your moms passing. We are with you in hating colon cancer and pray a cure is found inI our life. I will pray for you. May your mom rest in peace and without pain.  Jeff

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,796 Member
    Sorrow

    I am so sorry for your loss. I believe that no good mother should die.  My mum has been gone for many years now, and my 'Bert' dad, a couple of years. Very few days go by when I don't think of them.  

    You mum fought the battle, and I am sorry that her last days were pain filled.

    I'm sure your mum felt your love to the very end. 

     I pray for you and your dad, that in time, comfort and good memories will fill your life.

    Blessings! 

  • sharpy102
    sharpy102 Member Posts: 368 Member

    We are all with you

    I'm so sorry to hear about your moms passing. We are with you in hating colon cancer and pray a cure is found inI our life. I will pray for you. May your mom rest in peace and without pain.  Jeff

    I'm very sorry to hear Tina

    I'm very sorry to hear Tina that your Mommy has left. But think of htis way: this is the BEST for her! And I will make sure my Mom looks around for her up there! :) And pleas, BE STRONG!!!

  • barbebarb
    barbebarb Member Posts: 464
    sharpy102 said:

    I'm very sorry to hear Tina

    I'm very sorry to hear Tina that your Mommy has left. But think of htis way: this is the BEST for her! And I will make sure my Mom looks around for her up there! :) And pleas, BE STRONG!!!

    Peace
    Know you did the best for your mom. I hate the little c and refuse to call it the big C.
    It is so hard on loved ones and we as patients. Even with all the support it is so trying.
    She will be in peace now.
    Barb
  • thingy45
    thingy45 Member Posts: 632 Member
    barbebarb said:

    Peace
    Know you did the best for your mom. I hate the little c and refuse to call it the big C.
    It is so hard on loved ones and we as patients. Even with all the support it is so trying.
    She will be in peace now.
    Barb

    so sorry

    So sorry Tina about your loss, it is so difficult to stand by and not being able to do something. Difficult to see the suffering of people you love so much, you did all you could.

    I wish you peace,

    Hugs, Marjan

  • Ruthmomto4
    Ruthmomto4 Member Posts: 708 Member
    I am so very sorry for your

    I am so very sorry for your loss 

  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
    Tina

    Sorry for your loss.  She is now pain free in the arms of God.  

  • christinecarl
    christinecarl Member Posts: 543 Member
    :(

    I am so very sorry.  I too lost my mom to colon cancer 5-5-06, not a day goes by that I do not think of her.  I have lost my grandma to it as well, not to mention my own journey with it.  stay well, prayers to you and yours.

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member

    :(

    I am so very sorry.  I too lost my mom to colon cancer 5-5-06, not a day goes by that I do not think of her.  I have lost my grandma to it as well, not to mention my own journey with it.  stay well, prayers to you and yours.

     
    Tina, My heart and prayer

     

    Tina, My heart and prayer are with you. I am so sorry.

    Cathleen Mary

  • Maxiecat
    Maxiecat Member Posts: 544 Member
    I am so sorry Tina.  I think

    I am so sorry Tina.  I think I can tell for your post that your Mom knew that you loved her very much.

  • Nana b
    Nana b Member Posts: 3,030 Member
    Maxiecat said:

    I am so sorry Tina.  I think

    I am so sorry Tina.  I think I can tell for your post that your Mom knew that you loved her very much.

    So sorry for you lost.    I

    So sorry for you lost.    I am also Stage 4, and know that my daughters will feel the pain as you are now feeling.  Take care of youself. When we go, we want our girls to be strong, to live, and think of us with fond memories.   WIth all due respect,  things will get easier, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other.  God Bless you!    A Mom....

  • hopeandcure
    hopeandcure Member Posts: 7
    Wanted to stop by and say Thank You

    Thanks for all the wonderful words and prayers , they do help each and everyone of get through these difficult times... You are all in my thoughts and prayers each day that I take a breath.. Hugs to all..Smile

    Tina

  • hopeandcure
    hopeandcure Member Posts: 7
    Nana b said:

    So sorry for you lost.    I

    So sorry for you lost.    I am also Stage 4, and know that my daughters will feel the pain as you are now feeling.  Take care of youself. When we go, we want our girls to be strong, to live, and think of us with fond memories.   WIth all due respect,  things will get easier, one day at a time, one foot in front of the other.  God Bless you!    A Mom....

    Thinking of you

    I will be praying for a cure for your cancer.... each and everyday.. God bless stay strong and fight it! Your not in this alone.. hugsInnocent

    Tina

  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    Tina

    Tina,

    I am so sorry for the loss of your wonderful mom.  My prayers are with you.

     

    Aloha,

    Kathleen