I feel like I do not belong on here

jerseygirl231
jerseygirl231 Member Posts: 178

I feel like this is a very close place and I am an outsider. I dont stay where I am unwelcomed. For those who spoke kind words to me I thank you . I will leave this board

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  • disneyfan2008
    disneyfan2008 Member Posts: 6,583 Member
    I must have missed

    I must have missed something...

     

    Denise

  • roseann4
    roseann4 Member Posts: 992 Member

    I must have missed

    I must have missed something...

     

    Denise

    What's going on?

    I am not on the board often and don't have close relationships with anyone in particular.  However everyone has been lovely to me and offered great advise when I needed it.  Sorry to see you leave such a valuable resource and lovely people.

     

    Roseann

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    Me Too!

    I must have missed 'something' TOO!

    I don't know what has happened but PLEASE rethink and stay here.  This is a VERY large site with such diverse personalities/life experiences/own agendas/you name it - I refuse to be 'run away' from a PUBLIC FORUM by anyone - I have as much right to bee here as they do and have the right to be me - just as you have those same rights.  And can (and have) given to others - Don't deprive others/newbies/oldies of you and what you can pass on because you (or anyone) has a lot to give - not the same as anyone else but thankfully the world is very diverse and not just 'one size fits all'.  I hope you do read this and reconsider.

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    OOPS! BIG TIME

    My silly tablet went crazy on post the same post - SO Sorry!

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    OOPS

    OOPS 

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

  • jamiegww
    jamiegww Member Posts: 384
    I must have missed something also.

    I don't know why you think you don't belong.  You are a breast cancer survivor.  We get new members constantly and they can benefit greatly from your experience.  Hopefully you have gained some knowledge and comfort from us in the past.  We will miss you and hope you decide to stay but, if not, I pray you have a long and happy life.

    HUGS!!!

    Jamie

    After posting this, I looked back a couple of pages.  I see that you were recently told the cancer has spread to your bones.  I understand that is difficult news to process and you are apparently having difficulty with your medications.  I believe, if you give your onc more time, he/she can find something that will work for you.  Naturally, if you really want to give up, that is definitely your right but I can tell you that I found out in July last year that I am stage 4 and I also considered giving up.  I started back on chemo and it was very difficult to deal with (I too was discussing quality of life) but I honestly believe that if I hadn't received the chemo, I wouldn't be alive now.  I am currently on chemo pills (Xeloda) and I feel pretty good these days.  I am so glad I didn't give up and I pray that you will think about continuing the battle a little longer because I really think you are still in shock over hearing that you are stage 4 and it takes time to accept something like that.  I am praying you find "peace" in whatever decision you make.  Just remember you are not alone!

    HUGS!!!

    Jamie   

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    OOPS!

    OOPS!

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    OOPS!

    OOPS!

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    OOPS!

    OOPS!

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

  • Rague
    Rague Member Posts: 3,653 Member
    OOPS!

    OOPS!

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    Rague said:

    OOPS!

    OOPS!

    Winyan - The Power Within

    Susan

    I'm so sorry you feel like you don't belong

    And I sincerely apologize for anything I may have said or done to contribute to that feeling. 

    I found great comfort here when I was going through my treatments.  Many of the members who were here then (2 1/2 years ago) have remained active on this board.  It is one of the reasons I come back - to stay connected with them and to check on them and, since I am now cancer free, to offer hope to those beginning their journeys.    

    I hope you will continue to come here as there are others who are experiencing or have experienced similiar situations as yours.  And I hope we can provide you with what support you need.  You are welcome here.  We may simply not be what you need at this time.  Please reconsider.

    Suzanne

  • camul
    camul Member Posts: 2,537
    Jerseygirl231

    I am so sorry that you feel that you do not belong here. There are no outsiders here at all. Everyone of us is here for a reason.  Some of us have just been on here for a long time and have been through a lot from the get go, therefore, you get to know eachother.  Some zo of us have had the opportunity to actually meet some of our fellow pinks in person.  I hope that everyone will always feel welcome on this board as we all have something to give and I know that I really do need the wonderful men and women on this board. 

    Family and friends are wonderful and some try really hard, but honestly, being with others who have or are experiencing this journey that we never would have volunteered for has just been priceless. 

    Being stage iv, I was so welcomed when I came here.  I tried another group in person and realized that being stage iv, I was their  worse nightmare.  They were all afraid of becoming stage iv and there I felt like a pariah.  Now I belong to a support group through our Cancer Wellness House, as well as this online support group, and in both I love all the experiences with meds, feelings, grief, laughter, etc. 

    I don't always post, or respond.  Sometimes I take mental health breaks and try to stay away, it usually only lasts a few days, though as I want to know the results of our fellow pinks tests and celebrate or commiserate.  I don't always agree with people but I certainly respect their rights to make what ever decisions they feel are right for them...  No decision is easy and there isn't a treatment that works the same for any 2 people.   

    I too went back to see if there was anything to blatently want you to leave, and other than struggling with some very hard decisions regarding treatment, I hope you stay on as there is always something to learn and we always love to hear where each of our fellow pinks are on this journey. 

    Hugs and hoping it all gets better for you.

    Carol

     

     

     

  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Technically, I no longer belong here....

    I fought my battle so long ago....

    BUT, dearheart, you have valuable information to share...and, just by you posting your thoughts on leaving, it means you need to stay....

    We are a VERY big family here, made up of 'newbies' and 'not-so-newbies'.  Some of us (me, included) lurk more than post.  BUT we have all, at one time, been active in the group.....

    Please think about it, but if you must go on...well, we will leave the light on for you, my dear!!!

     

    Hugs, kathi

  • LouSun
    LouSun Member Posts: 2
    i am so sorry that you feel

    i am so sorry that you feel this way i once before came to this site and posted but no one ever replied to me .so now i just readbthe post and hope some one else has asked my question. this site has lots of great information please dont be discouraged

     

  • Bella Luna
    Bella Luna Member Posts: 1,578 Member
    Jersey Girl... I hope you

    Jersey Girl... I hope you change your mind and decide to stay.  You have every right to be here.  Just as much right as any of us here on CSN.  I am sorry you are going through such hardship and feel unwelcomed.  Please stay.

    Big hugs,

    Ines

     

  • LoveBabyJesus
    LoveBabyJesus Member Posts: 1,679 Member
    Stay!

    I don't know what happened, but whatever it is, I hope you decide to stay. Because you are part of our community and we need you too!

    Sending you a big hug!

  • peanutcat
    peanutcat Member Posts: 104
    I feel

    Don't feel that way, your welcome anywhere you want to go. why do you feel that way?  There is a lot to read on this whole site. Sometimes it take a while for someone to respond. DON'T LEAVE THIS SITE.

    peanutcat