Advice on Arragements

I guess it's time I started facing the finality of her condition. She is doing ok all things considered, but her strength is waning and she sleeps 80% of the time.

Little appetite and hardly any desire for anything other than chocolate ice cream.

Now my confusion....She will be buried about 2 & 1/2 hours from our home, back to her family's hometown. How do I handle the transportation from the funeral home here, where a memorial service will be held, to the church/cemetery where she is to be buried?

Is it better to call a funeral service in her hometown to come here and handle the transporting or have one here where we live do the whole thing?

It's getting to where I just can't think straight half the time. I am walking in circles trying to keep up with all that needs to be done now and the things to come.

I'm loosing my sweetie and it's getting harder and harder to deal with the daily things.

thanks
John

Comments

  • palmyrafan
    palmyrafan Member Posts: 396
    Funeral Arrangements
    I am so sorry that you are having to plan all of this at this difficult time.

    I would speak with both funeral homes. First, talk to the local one and see what arrangements they can offer to transport your loved one to her final resting place. Then contact the hometown funeral home and see what services/support they can offer. Hopefully, a compromise can be reached between the 2 and you will be able to help coordinate the final plans.

    You're in my thoughts and prayers.

    Teresa
  • ketziah35
    ketziah35 Member Posts: 1,145
    I would post on the grief
    I would post on the grief discssion board, just as you have it noted here. That is an active board and would know from personal expwrience since they already went thru it. There are a couple of people who have recently lost someone.
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    transportation
    I've had to make a similar decision recently: the funeral home I dealt with had an "all inclusive" cost that accomodated a trip to pick up your loved one and transport them to their facility. May be the funeral home where y'all are headed has the same kind of arrangement available.

    Please look under cancer.org. There is a very good layout of things that need to be done as the time gets closer. Kind of steps you through some things and helps keep you on track.

    Also, please call a good friend or relative to help you keep things straight. Get a notebook and keep it with you that has all the phone numbers you will need for hospice (who also can provide excellent information for end of life), your religious leader (our minister is very good at knowing the next steps), people you will want to call after she passes...

    Hugs, John. I'm sorry you are having to face this.
  • jimwins
    jimwins Member Posts: 2,107
    Hi John
    As other suggested, maybe you can get a close friend/relative, minister or someone
    to help you with all of this. I know it is very difficult.
    And of course you can come here as much as you like.

    Hugs,

    Jim
  • dearfoam
    dearfoam Member Posts: 82
    Hospice can help make arrangements
    I haven't had to call in hospice, but have interviewed some in my town. I was told by the chaplain of one that she would personally see to help make sure all those arrangements (service, transport, etc) were in place as part of the job. I am sure every organization is a little different, but if you have hospice care, or are considering it, this might help you a lot.
    Best,
    DF
  • slg
    slg Member Posts: 200

    transportation
    I've had to make a similar decision recently: the funeral home I dealt with had an "all inclusive" cost that accomodated a trip to pick up your loved one and transport them to their facility. May be the funeral home where y'all are headed has the same kind of arrangement available.

    Please look under cancer.org. There is a very good layout of things that need to be done as the time gets closer. Kind of steps you through some things and helps keep you on track.

    Also, please call a good friend or relative to help you keep things straight. Get a notebook and keep it with you that has all the phone numbers you will need for hospice (who also can provide excellent information for end of life), your religious leader (our minister is very good at knowing the next steps), people you will want to call after she passes...

    Hugs, John. I'm sorry you are having to face this.

    Noellesmom
    Can you tell me where to find the info you are referring to on the cancer.org website? I believe I will be needing it in the near future. Thanks.
  • Noellesmom
    Noellesmom Member Posts: 1,859 Member
    slg said:

    Noellesmom
    Can you tell me where to find the info you are referring to on the cancer.org website? I believe I will be needing it in the near future. Thanks.

    Nearing the End of Life
    Do a search for that section, slg.

    Hugs.