i cant stop crying...do the tears ever dry up

Healing
Yes, we heal, but we never forget. Time helps us deal. Grief is not something we get over. It is a process we need to allow ourselves to do. Cry, shout, beat on a pillow. Grieve in your own time and way. Then healing can begin. Fay

sorry
I am so sorry for your loss... It's been almost 2 yrs and I still can't believe my mom is gone... I still wait for the phone to ring. We talked every Sat. if nothing else..she always called at the same time... now the silence is deafening... it does get a little easier with time... I have slowly, very slowly, started to let go of some of my grief, my anger... I have a saying, kind of like a mantra, it may sound silly but it comforts me somehow.. "It is what it is, and what happens, happens" I don't think we ever completely get over the heartache, but we do learn to cope in time....
Hugs,
Cindy

How long?
Ayma,
I don't remember reading your posts before, but I'm guessing it's your husband that you lost. When did he pass away? I lost my husband a year ago this past March. And yes, the tears do dry up and you'll find yourself crying less one day. But I still have moments when I think of him or go someplace where we went together, or hear a song that meant something to us, that my tears start flowing again. We were married for 46 years and had known each other since 1st grade. He was not only my husband, but also my best friend. And I miss him every day, but I know he'd want me to be happy so I'm trying my best.
Be strong!! Carole

UNBEARABLE said:

i dont know the answer...
Ayma,
I don't know if it does heal. I lost my best friend and my husband 7 mos. ago and the reality of it all is just as painful as when he died. I still feel like it is just a bad dream, I still call his cell phone, I still wake up reaching over to touch him at night. My thoughts and prayers are with you. I hope it gets easier in time. I too am as empty as you...If you ever need to talk, I am here.

STILL UNBEARABLE

Unbearable. I too lost my
Unbearable. I too lost my husband; it is a little less than four months ago. Like Carole and her husband, Mike and I also knew each other since first grade, went together for 5 1/2 years from the end of our senior year in high school, and were married for 31 years 3 months when he passed away. Mike was a really great guy, husband, best friend, confidant, comedian and my rock. I too feel empty; like someone ripped my heart out. Although there are a few less tears as time goes on and I can talk more about all of the good times and smile more when I think of Mike, it still hurts like hell. My thoughts and prayers are with you too.

jethro-t said:

I understand the pain is so great
My husband has been gone 8 months now. Esophageal Cancer... I keep thinking this "time" everyone is talking about that we are moving through is getting better, easier, then I break down and cry for days...can't talk, don't eat, like it's all over again. I keep thinking when will it stop.. this pain from losing my friend and husband of 25 years. My kids cry at the great loss they miss their friend in their dad and confidante. I'm sorry I've not been on here. I need some one to tell me they feel this same way. I know I'm not alone, but sometimes I feel like it. Alone, 90percent of the time, kids 19 and 23 are hardly ever with me. What to do? People tell you to get hobbies, stay busy... and I've tried all that, but at the end of the day... night... I'm still ALONE and lonely, missing him.

Rhonda (Jethro -T) my husband Hal loved Jethro Tull, died Nov. 14, 2010

I understand
Rhonda,

My husband died in June 2010 of GBM IV (brain cancer. I have three children 29, 27 and 24. The two older ones married this year and the youngest lives near Boston with friends. There are times the loneliness is all consuming. I encourage my children to move forward with their lives. It is what they should be doing. I don't want to be their project. I see them often but they have their own lives. My life consists of working about 30 hrs per week and then I come home and work on my house. Not how I saw my life at the age of 57, but it is the hand life has dealt me. Finding hobbies and staying busy is hard when you are so physically and emotional fatigued and your concentration is just not there. I go to grief counseling and attended a support group for young widows and they were very helpful but I believe time will still be the ultimate healer. We are not every going to fully recover from this, but I do believe that down the road it will get easier. We need to hold on ride this crazy roller coaster. It is a process and not an easy one.

There are many of us here on the board. We are all going through the same thing, just at different stages. I have found comfort and support here and I hope you will too.
Becky