My mother has Uterine Cancer

I'm sorry I can't relate to most of you who have cancer but I have already lost my Uncle to cancer and now my mom has it. She's 73 and has had a hard life. She starts Chemo on Friday and she doesn't know how bad it is. I'm 22 the youngest of 5 and I'm scared to death of losing her and don't know who to turn to. Any advice would be so helpful.

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  • A1pena
    A1pena Member Posts: 92
    I am so sorry to hear about
    I am so sorry to hear about your mother and uncle. My mom was diagnosed last year- it has not been easy for us... what has helped is doing as much research as I can- the book antti-cancer way of life really helped us by giving tips and ideas on how to fight cancer naturally- made us feel like we could regain some control. Do you know what stage she is? If they are doing surgery and if so, will it be done by a gynocologist-oncologist? From what I understand, everyone reacts differently to the chemo- my mom was has been able to live a relatively normal life through this all with minimal side effects. I know its scary :-(

    Sincerely,

    Amanda
  • kkstef
    kkstef Member Posts: 688 Member
    Welcome Tinkerbell
    I am so sorry that you have a need to stop in here, but am so glad you did. There is so much info on this discussion group. You can learn a great deal just by reading through some of the postings.

    Tomorrow you will learn so much more. The nurses are wonderful about explaining things and answering questions. Feel very comfortable asking questions and be sure you write things down. It is so hard to remember things once you leave the infusion center.

    It is important to know what type of uterine cancer you Mom has and what Stage and Grade it is. What chemo drugs will she be taking? What is the frequency? Will she need to have any radiation?

    Contact the American Cancer Society for information. They can also help your Mom with a wig if that is what she wants.

    Generally the first couple of days post chemo are not bad at all, but days 4-7 are generally the most challenging....no energy, no appetite and just feeling blah.

    I can appreciate how scared you must be....I know how frightened my daughter was, but you will gain confidence with each passing day. Ask for help if you need it! Just let your Mom know how much you love her and that you are there to support her....she will be so appreciative of you being there for her.

    Check in with this discussion group and keep us updated on how your Momm is doing. Ask questions as the women on this board are very knowledgeable and supportive. It is also a good place to just vent, if that is what you feel like doing.

    Will be sending you much positive energy for you and your Mom tomorrow!

    Take care!

    Karen
  • Caggyblue
    Caggyblue Member Posts: 1
    My mom has Uterine Cancer too
    I'm sorry to hear about your mom and your uncle. Just wanted you to know that my mom is also 73 and has Stage IV Uterine cancer. But she's had it for 13 yrs. Yes, I said 13 yrs. So for all of you who think that your life span is cut so short, it is not. I am 54 and I'm also scared to death of losing my mom.

    I lost my dad 2 years ago and my favorite aunt a year after that. My mom is all I have left. It's tough watching her react to chemo, radiation, clinical trials and all the other tons of meds they put her on. All you can do is be by her side, make all the days count. She's scared as I'm sure you are too.

    There are three things I've learned from her having Cancer. One is that I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Two is that once someone in your family has it, you all have it. It becomes everyone's disease. Three is hopefulness followed by hopelessness. Hopeful that something will work and feeling hopeless when it doesn't.

    Be strong...for your mom. Make each and every day count. She will appreciate it.

    God Bless You.
  • Tresia23
    Tresia23 Member Posts: 77
    Mothers and daughters
    Sorry to hear about your mum. She is fortunate to have a caring daughter who is looking to find ways of helping her during this time. It is really helpful to let others know that we care. Even if what you are facing is scary, remember your mum is probably twice as scared, maybe more. Knowing about the treatments can be helpful because you can explain things to her that maybe she finds hard to comprehend in her anxiety. Giving her a hug, a bunch of flowers or just a phone call to see how she is feeling can be a big boost emotionally. Let her know that you are scared for her. Acknowledging feelings can bring you closer and free up that scary thinking that just goes round and round inside our heads. Wishing you and your mum loving thoughts and blessings.