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7 Questions to Avoid Asking Cancer Patients

Supporting or taking care of a cancer patient is a noble thing to do.  This is even more honorable when the person is a loved one. But you need to avoid asking certain questions which can make her/him feel uncomfortable.  Remember, this is a difficult time; any simple impoliteness can lead to anger, frustration, or sadness.

New & Nervous

I'm new on this site wish I would have found it 6 weeks ago!  I have anal cancer but it doesn't have me!  I will kick cancers are!  I have a future and hope!  These are just a few sticky notes I put on my mirror and said out loud, some times very loud and some times while crying!  I'm 6 weeks post radiation & chemo still feeling exhausted but everyday seems better but some days I may nap all day!  I'm nervous about getting the tumor checked I really want it to shrink and be gone!  I have a great cancer team which is about 45 miles from my home so the 30 trips for radiation wasn't so bad

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It's Ba-a-ack

I was originally diagnosed with Stage 1 DCIS in December 2004.  Because it was in 2 sites in the same breast, I had a modified radical mastectomy in January 2005.  What followed was the "year from hell".

I had just completed training for a new telemarketing job when I was diagnosed.  I was relieved that I had  COBRA from my previous job so the cancer treatment would be covered. 

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Smiling Through a Laryngectomy


I have been searching Google and YouTube trying to find out what I will be facing, experiencing  when I have my "Wide Local Excision" of my vagina due to being diagnosed with high grade squamous carcinoma (VAIN III).  On YouTube it seems that there's all kinds of surgeries except for VAIN (Wide Local Excison).  I wanted to see exactly how and what the surgery consist of.  I wanted to see how I would be cut, burned and stitched after the procedure.  I wanted to see what will be taken out and how much bleeding will take place during the surgery.

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Cancer Couple Blog, Chapter 10

Good news!  My last two blood tests came back negative, or rather “undetectable”, which means the readings were too low to be measured. While that has certainly been a tremendous relief, it only means that there is at present no evidence of disease, or NED.

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Smiling Through a Laryngectomy

Counting the Days

DR.Y told me before he closed the TEP valve hole that there is no guarantee that the surgery will be successful on the first try. He might need to go back two or three times to resuture. Bottom line, I wasn’t leaving the hospital until he was convinced that the puncture had been sealed tight. I, on the other hand being a superhuman, figured I'd be home in a day or two.

Understanding How The Process Works

I'm trying to understand the next step.  I was diagnosed with Stage IV Rectal cancer.  I went to my Dr in December with bloody stool, weight loss, and fatigue.  He sent me for a blood test on 12/21 (the only claim the insurance has denied) and it showed cancer in my blood.  I had a colonoscopy on 1/15/18 and they found a friable tumor, biopsy showed cancer.  CT scans and PET scan showed liver mets and possible lung mets.  Started on Folfox and Avastin.  After 3rd treatment, white blood was down to 2 so they stopped something.

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Cycle 4 Completed

Yea Me!  Done with Cycle 4 and only have two more remaining.

I did have to stop treatment at the end of cycle 2 until my white blood counts came up. The oncology team also changed around the chemo medications a it and added Neulasta.  I am back on track. New schedule is every 3 weeks.


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